For some women, the problem stems from sex that ends too quickly. In heterosexual relationships, men often climax before women do, which can leave them frustrated and dissatisfied.
If you’re a male partner and need to make sex last longer to make your significant other happy, then you’re in the right place. Here are some tips and tricks for how to last longer during sex.
Focus on Foreplay
Movies and porn will have us believe that penetrative sex lasts for hours. But how long does sex last in reality? It depends on the couple, but on average, it lasts about 5.4 minutes. So if that sounds about right for you, you might not be having such short sessions after all!
However, you still might be wondering how to last longer, especially if it’s what your partner wants. In this case, you can focus on pre-sex activity, otherwise known as foreplay.
Take this time to get your partner hot and bothered, all without any penetrative sex. In fact, you can give her an orgasm or two so that if things don’t go according to plan and you still finish sex earlier than desired, she’s gotten some satisfaction.
Try Different Positions
You’re bound to have a favorite position when it comes to sex. But sometimes, it can be so good that you finish early!
What you can do is experiment and try other positions. It’s good to switch it up and delay your orgasm, so don’t be afraid to explore various positions in one session. It can be a great way to spice things up and keep your partner on her toes!
Try the Pause-Squeeze Method
This will take some practice, but once you master it, it’ll help you have long-lasting sex.
Have sex as normal, but when you feel like you’re about to orgasm, pull out. Squeeze the tip of your penis for as long as you need, until the feeling of climax passes. You can then go back to having sex.
If you feel like you’re going to orgasm again, then you can repeat this process as many times as needed before the grand finale.
As we’ve already said, it might take some practice to get this method down. But once you do, you might gain so much more self-control that you won’t need to use the pause-squeeze method to delay ejaculation. You might be able to do so through sheer willpower alone.
Do Pelvic Floor Exercises
Pelvic floor exercises are beneficial for both sexes. The stronger yours are, the better you’ll be able to control ejaculation.
To work out these muscles, pretend like you’re stopping urination midstream or passing gas. Those are your pelvic floor muscles!
Now that you know what muscles you need to strengthen, you can do small “workouts.” Tighten these muscles for 3 seconds, then relax them for 3 seconds. Repeat this cycle however many times you wish.
What’s great is you can do pelvic floor exercises whenever and wherever you wish. So start multitasking!
Use a Numbing Gel or Spray
There are some numbing gels or sprays on the market that you can use to desensitize your penis. They usually contain ingredients like lidocaine and prilocaine, which can block nerve signals.
This might sound uncomfortable to some men, but the reality is, if you’re suffering from premature ejaculation due to your penis being over-sensitive to touch, this can be a godsend.
All you have to do is apply the gel or spray onto your penis 30 minutes before sex. Then, you should be able to delay your orgasm enough to satisfy your partner.
Do note that with numbing gels or sprays, it’s possible to transfer them onto your significant other’s genitals. This means they might have a decrease in sensation as well, so make sure you let them know you’re using these products ahead of time.
Use Endurance Wipes
What are endurance wipes? They work very similarly to numbing gels. These look like any other regular towelette, but with one powerful ingredient: benzocaine.
Benzocaine works like lidocaine and prilocaine in that it can slightly desensitize your penis so you’re not as sensitive during sex. Simply grab an endurance wipe before sex, wipe it on your penis, and then wait 10 minutes for it to kick it. This also prevents the benzocaine from transferring over to your significant other.
The desensitization effect should last about 30 to 90 minutes, so it should be sufficient for one complete session of sex with your partner.
Condoms might be seen as a pesky type of birth control, but when it comes to lasting longer in bed, they can be a real helper. Just the fact that you’re wearing something around your penis can already slightly desensitize it. Not to mention, there are some condoms that come with a few drops of desensitizing gel in the tip, which can help you even further.
If you don’t have just one regular sexual partner and are worried about sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and/or pregnancy, then condoms can also help protect against these things. It’s a win-win situation all around!
Make Sex Last Longer With Our Tips
By following the above tips, you can make sex last longer and increase pleasure for both you and your partner. It might take some trial and error with these methods, and not every single one will work for you.
But by experimenting, being patient, and communicating with your significant other, you can find the option that works best for you. And as a result, you’ll be able to improve your sex life dramatically!
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